When we think of personality types, we hear of two types - introvert or extrovert. I have often felt introverted at times but also extroverted. But I never could identify with one side fully. I recently discovered the term "ambivert". I couldn't find a lot of information on the origin of the word but it's first known use was in 1927. In the dictionary, the meaning of ambivert is: a person having characteristics of both extrovert and introvert. Introverts are known for needing alone time to harness energy and get creative. Being around people too much can be really draining for them. Extroverts need people to make energy. They typically feel energized by relationships and find being alone too draining. Ambiverts need alone time to make their energy, to get creative but also need socialization but in a purposeful way. They understand the benefits of both sides of the spectrum. They can be animated or mellow in conversation and feel the need for socialization just as much as alone time. I feel ambiverts go through phases in their lives too where they bend to either the introvert or extrovert side. The range of how much, varies from person to person. There are numerous sites where you can take tests to find out but if you pay attention to your own behavior patterns, you can see where you fall. Ambiverts also know how to socialize where they can hold a conversation and listen well. Extroverts can lay it on thick where people often feel they aren't listened to or have reciprocity. Introverts can spend way to much time alone and the people closest often feel neglected at the lack of contact and reciprocity too.
Great things do come from extroverts like entertainment, conjuring people to get together and have adventures. Introverts are often the great thinkers and inventors of our time. It's just nice to know that there's a term for the people who straddle both sides of the fence. I love people but I need to get away and have me time. Then when I feel filled up with alone time, I head out into the world to share, exchange and connect. Which side do you fall on? Does the term ambivert speak to you?
I just finished watching the film "Into the Wild". The story is about a young man named Chris McCandless who was in search of his ultimate life adventure. On his spiritual quest, he touched the people he met, which further enriched his travels. On his quest to find happiness without only finding it in others, he wrote something that was really interesting to me: "Happiness is only real when shared". Some may debate that you can experience true happiness alone. And I believe it's true too. There are great moments we all experience, invent or discover on our own and those moments are truly beautiful. But we often share them, even if it's afterwards. Humans need to share even if it's through the internet. It's human connection we all crave. When you let your guard down and let someone into your heart, it's the ultimate.